You Look So Good In Love!

A Lifetime…Searching

We spend our lives longing for and searching for it.  We talk about it, what it means to us, and at some point in our lives, we have all hoped that the purest and truest sense of it…finds us.  For some, it consumes their every moment and others confuse it with lust.  What is it?  It has been call one of nature’s greatest gifts.  It’s LOVE.

What is love? Can it be measured equally among mankind, or can it be measured at all?  Is it unconditional?  Love means different things to different people and I believe that two people who are in love, will share somewhat the same views of love and what it means between them, in their relationship.

The Magic, The Warmth, The Security

Love is the magnificent work of nature that guides a blind heart.  Love is patient, love protects and does not judge.  Love is romantic, it bonds, is intimate, and connects.  Love is thrilling, fascinating, and complex.  Love is committed, comforting, warm, and secure.  No matter how you feel it, love is real, love is true.  Love can make a woman feel sexy and a man more masculine.  Some believe love is something that sweeps us off our feet, knocks our socks off, or bells and whistles will sound in our head when we are in the depths of it.  Love can join lovers or bound best friends; it is never the same in different relationships.  Why is it called “falling in love” when we experience a feeling of utopia and are on Cloud 9?

Some have bought companionship, attention, loyalty, or compassion; but love itself cannot be bought.  But what is love, and how do we know when we are in “it“?   People have commented to others “Love looks good on you“, and there are song lyrics which sing “You Look So Good In Love.”  We’ve also heard that the less love you have in your life, the more room you have for depression to settle in. Love=Happiness.

So, what is love?  It’s the smile that is plastered across your face when your someone special walks in the room.  It’s sweaty palms and pounding heart.  It’s the stars in their eyes when they look at you!

That’s what love is! Are you in it?

23 Things You Will Never Hear A Man Utter

  1. While I’m up, can I get you anything?
  2. I think we are lost, I better pull over and ask directions.
  3. Here honey, you use the remote.
  4. Sex isn’t that important.
  5. Forget football, let’s watch a movie while we cuddle on the couch.
  6. Hey, let me hold your purse while you try on that “to die for” dress.
  7. Let’s go someplace where we have to get really dressed up.
  8. Want to hit the outlet mall this weekend?
  9. If you want to date other guys too, I’m cool with that.
  10. How can anyone watch boxing? It’s nothing but violence and blood.
  11. Hey, today’s our two month anniversary for (insert whatever event here).
  12. This scented candle doesn’t have a strong scent.
  13. I fell so bloated.
  14. Her boobs are just too big.
  15. Does anyone want to go to the men’s room with me?
  16. I/you need more shoes.
  17. Do you think this shirt enhances my eyes?
  18. I’m not that kind of guy.
  19. I want to hear all about your ex.
  20. Why don’t you ever hold my hand in front of your friends?
  21. Here sweetie, you drive.
  22. Can you put my ID in your wallet?
  23. I knew you had a hard week so I baked you some brownies.

Things We Want Our Guy to Know (Part 1)

There are some universal truths that women believe all men should (but don’t) understand. Lucky for you, through various sources I have compiled a list of some things gals would like to tell our fellas.

If we haven’t otherwise verbalized them to you, here they are…

1.  Saying “I love you” immediately before, during, or following sex doesn’t count.

2.  We will leave if you lie.

3.  We love it when you hug us from behind and whisper in our ear.

4.  “Fine” is never an appropriate response when we ask you how we look.

5.  Most of the time when we fantasize…it is about you.

6.  We are terrified of becoming our mother, even though we admire her.

7.  We get excited by simply seeing that we have an e-mail from you.

8.  We expect you to call us.

9.  It turns us on when you move our hair to tenderly kiss our neck.

10.  Only rock stars are allowed to wear leather pants.

11.  Please listen.  Not because what we are about to say will rock your world, but because listening is a sign of respect that rocks our world.

12.  We are scared of losing our independence.

13.  Oral pleasure is your get-out-of-the-doghouse-free card. Manolo Blahnik shoes also do the trick.

14.  You did something bad. We seem cool with it. Umm..we’re not! (See #13.)

15.  If we are not having sex with you, we are either; a) having a fat day; b) not feeling well; c) not feeling “connected” to you; or d) blackmailing you to get something we want.  (Most likely it is NOT “d”)

16.  Never, ever forget a birthday or anniversary. Write it down, put it in your phone or calendar to remind you.

17.  Shoes determine whether you’re fashionable or not.

18.  Take control in the bedroom. Don’t ask “Is this okay?” Trust us, if we don’t like it we will let you know!

19.  Getting a bikini wax is the most painful thing ever. We do it for you. You better appreciate it.

20.  While it is the age of the independent woman, we do want to be cared for.  In return, we will take care of you.

21.  Yes, it bothers us when you check out, comment, or drool over other women.  It’s not because we’re insecure but we put effort into how we look for you and we would like for it to be appreciated.  Besides, it’s just rude! Have some manners and show your lady the respect she deserves.

22. Court us. Treat us like the lady we are. That includes paying on a first date. In fact, don’t even make us feel like we have to do a courtesy gesture and reach for our wallet.  If not, we’ll find a man who won’t ever let us reach for the bill or go dutch.

23.  Just because we are capable does not mean we want to do everything ourselves.

24.  Your pants should not be tighter than ours. Ever!

25.  Sexy lingerie is often itchy and uncomfortable so if we come out wearing it, you better have a big ‘ole smile on your face.

26.  We own a Debbie Gibson CD, and we are not afraid to use it.

27.  When giving a compliment, be specific.  We know we have nice legs, but if you tell me you love how my thigh curves “like that,” it’s a real turn-on.  Also, you should know that you can never give too many compliments, as long as they’re sincere.

28.  When we compare our flabby tummy to a kangaroo pouch, say nothing!

29.  When you are ready, we want you to tell us you love us; and we want you to match your actions to your words.

30.  Do not ever comment on our weight except to say how thin and beautiful we look.

31.  We are not your “mother.”  When we ask you to please pick up the towels (insert any object here), do the dishes (replace with any activity here) or remind you to do something (substitute for anything). Do it the first time we ask and we won’t even remind you of her. Trust us, being your mom is the last thing we want to be to you.

32.  Compliment us.  Telling us we are pretty, hot, beautiful, etc will never do any harm for either party involved. Thanks in advance.

33.  We love it when our guy plans the occasional fancy-schmancy dress-up date, impromptu weekend getaways, and he buys our favorite candy in advance when we’re just going to the movies.

34.  You should never tell us what to do.

35.  When we have a problem all we really want is for you to listen. Don’t try to fix it.  The only thing we really want is for your to hold us and let us know it will be okay.

36.  If we slept over, you owe us breakfast.

37.  Manscape!  Excessive hair anywhere is gross!

38.  We are suckers for romance.

39.  Our breasts love attention too.

40.  Confidence is more attractive than good looks; but being overly cocky is a total turn-off.  It’ll send our douche meter sky-rocketing.

41.  Emotion is not a sign of weakness. You can be vulnerable around us. However, if you cry at Hallmark commercials, we’ll be very uncomfortable. No woman wants a wimpy “Danny” downer.

42.  Boxer briefs are a good bet. Always!

43.  If you ask me out directly, your chances have increased greatly.

44.  We will be emotional sometimes. We can’t help it. It’s scientific so remember: this too shall pass… and then likely recur in another 28-days.

45.  We are impressed when you ask for our advice.

46.  We are unimpressed with a man who doesn’t take the lead a majority of the time.

47.  Bad hygiene is a TOTAL turn-off.  This includes: bad breath (carry Altoids, gum, a toothbrush – we don’t care), dirty fingernails (sure bet we don’t let you touch us), BO (wear deodorant or cologne – just don’t overdo it), etc.  We want to know you take care of yourself because it shows you’re capable of taking care us.

48.  A few words of appreciation go a long way.

49.  When in doubt, go with the shirt that matches your eye color.

50.  We love it when you reach for and hold our hand, even in public.

(Part 2 on 9/15 )

Is it love? It might just be!

Infatuation?  Nah, I knew I would have you…eventually!

It was love at first sight; a feeling that I have carried with me since our initial encounter some eleven years ago.  I remember first seeing you standing by the wall; your stature was tall and inviting to come over and check you out.  Your frame made me find reasons to be near you, to walk by you…just to get a glimpse of your enticing build.  It was as though somehow you were sending kinetic energy/signals to me, whispering my name telling me to come over,  to bask in your presence and flutter in the vicinity of your fabulousness; all while not being able to tear my eyes away from you.

Over the years, there were times that busy life somehow tucked you away, buried you in the back of my mind.  Days turned into weeks and then something would trigger visions of you and there you were, filling my mind again with that familiar sense of want, yet stronger than before even after all these years.

There Were Others

On more than a few occasions I caught others gazing at you with longing and want in their eyes.  You and I both knew they wanted you as badly as I did, however, jealously played no part on my behalf regarding their yearnings for you.  Although none of your admirers were sure who would have you first, I knew without a doubt that one day…YOU would be MINE!

Younger Versions of You Don’t Measure Up

Over the years I have entertained a couple few younger versions of you, however none really held a candle to your abilities or in the needs fulfillment department.  After years of telling myself I would have you one day, finally…I recently made the decision to take the steps necessary and officially make you mine.  I have thought of little else over the last week before arriving at the conclusion that YES…I deserve you, I need you, and I most definitely WANT YOU!

Want More?

If you would like to know what happens next and get a glimpse for yourself of the vision I have carried with me for so many years, look here.